5 Secrets You Keep That Can Destroy Your Marriage

Here are 5 secrets that could potentially destroy your
marriage if you continue to keep them:

1. Your overspending habit
This is a sticky subject because we are already part of
a culture that does not like to talk about money. So
many married people are spending, mindlessly, and
their spouse has no idea what is going on. To build
generational wealth, there has to be open
communication. Even if the money your are spending
is money you earned through the work you do, there
is a serious problem if you feel the need to keep your
expenses a secret.

2. Unprocessed childhood pain.
I know that sharing every detail of your childhood
may be difficult and unnecessary, however, if
something happened to you years ago and the pain
from it is still impacting your life in a meaningful way,
your spouse needs to know that. Knowing your
spouse is hurt and having no idea why can damage a
marriage, because at some point you start to wonder
if you are the source of the pain, even if that pain
existed long before you came along.

3. Friendships you have.
If you have a friendship, whether it's with the same
s*x or the opposite s*x, there is something strange
going on if that friendship needs to be a secret.
Examine why you are truly keeping it a secret and
you are sure to reveal something with your marriage
that needs to be addressed.

4. Your vision for your life.
If you dream of a life that is different than the one
you are living, but you find yourself trying to be
content with what you have because having more
seems unreasonable, you have to talk to your spouse
today. Nothing hurts a marriage more than dying
dreams and feelings of resentment. Keeping your
personal vision a secret will hurt in the long run.

5. What you do with your free time.
We are all entitled to free time. Spending time apart
is needed for any healthy relationship. However, your
time apart shouldn't be spent doing things other than
what you say you'll be doing. If your husband thinks
you are out shopping with your girls, you shouldn't
really be at a bar drinking by yourself. Or if your wife
thinks you went to a football game with your boys,
you shouldn't really be at the casino gambling away
your check. When you keep secrets about your
whereabouts, there are deeper personal and marital
issues you need to work though.
Being truthful all the time is hard stuff, but keeping a
ton of secrets is ultimately much harder.