10 FACTS ABOUT MASTURBATION THEY DON’T WANT YOU TO KNOW
mind about anything. I do feel that someone ought
to speak out about this thorny subject and present
clear facts and info about it for the benefit of those
who have been harassed and made to feel less than
human because they masturbate.
What Is Masturbation?
Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one's own
genitals, usually to the point of orgasm. The
stimulation can be performed using the hands,
fingers, everyday objects, or dedicated sex toys. I
lifted that definition right off Wikipedia, as it is an
accurate description and I do not feel compelled to
reinvent the wheel.
Masturbation Is Not A Sin
As I am a Christian (while this article is not religious
in nature), I feel a need to speak out for the Bible.
There is not one verse of the Bible that condemns
self-stimulation. There is not one that insinuates
such a condemnation. Yet, day after day, we hear
preachers condemn masturbation as a sin. Their
arguments?
There is the argument that sex was created for
mutual pleasure: Yes; I agree. Sex was. But
masturbation is not sex. It is sexual, and many
other things are sexual, but it is not sexual
intercourse in itself. Sex is for mutual benefits;
masturbation is for personal benefits. Two different
things. Yet, as I shall show later, masturbation can
be helpful in enhancing sexual intercourse. Not only
is it not a sin, it is a good thing.
There is also the argument that Jesus said if you lust
after the opposite sex in your mind, you are sinning.
Yes; that is correct too, but then what part of
physically stimulating yourself with the hands,
fingers or any other object is lusting after someone
in your mind? If a Christian lusts after someone in
their heart while masturbating, then such a one has
crossed the line that Jesus drew. That does not
make masturbation in itself a sin. That person has
merely corrupted a clean act and needs to deal with
his or her thoughts.
Someone asked me yesterday how I want to prove
that "those activities are censored and powered by
the Holy Spirit". Let me ask a question in response:
Have you ever given any thought to what happens
during actual sexual intercourse? A man and a
woman panting, sweating and heaving like two
idiots. All those cool looking dudes in suits (yes; that
includes me) don't look so cool when banging their
women and look like grotesque demons when
having an orgasm. What seems Holy Ghost
approved and powered about a hormone-raging
man ramming a stiff rod into a woman again and
again and having her moan like an animal? And as
for the women, all those prim and proper women
we see in public often look like demon-possessed
pagan priestesses during intercourse.
Seriously, apart from the "Jesus!! Jesus!!" that some
of the women cry out when in the throes of a good
romp or an orgasm, there cannot be anything about
sex that looks like the Holy Ghost gives approval to
the activity. Yet, He does. Case closed. The issue of
Holy Ghost approval and all that is in the mind. The
Bible that Christians claim to uphold does not make
an issue of these things or of masturbation.
I am tired of Christians being so close-minded that
they manufacture rules to help God. First, God
doesn't need your help. Second, take a look around
you and ask yourself if this close-mindedness has
helped your homes. Sexually dissatisfied husbands
and wives everywhere, many of whom will not speak
out though their marriages are in shambles. And
many of them stubbornly refusing to look at facts
when presented to them. Their call still.
Masturbation Is Addictive
Yes; it is. But then, so are mobile phones, food,
chocolate, wine, Coke, Twitter, Facebook and
football. Yet, no-one is screaming "Sin!!!" for all
those. Oh, even sexual intercourse itself is addictive.
Let's just lay aside all those things because they are
addictive; shall we? No; how to deal with anything
that has the potential for being addictive is not to
stay away from it, but to exercise moderation.
Masturbation Is Not A Dirty habit
Some people call masturbation a dirty habit. In what
sense? It produces mostly the same results as
sexual intercourse – the man ejaculates. The
woman has an orgasm and in some cases squirts.
What else? Masturbation is just as dirty as sexual
intercourse is, as far as I can tell.
Masturbation Is Healthy
In general, the medical community considers
masturbation to be a natural and harmless
expression of sexuality for both men and women. It
does not cause any physical injury or harm to the
body, and can be performed in moderation
throughout a person's lifetime as a part of normal
sexual behavior. Source
If you use other objects apart from your hands, be
careful though so you don't hurt yourself. Perhaps
you should visit a sex shop for some toys instead.
Why You Should Masturbate
Now that I have cleared the objections to
masturbation, let me tell you why you should
masturbate.
One: masturbation helps you get comfortable with
your sexuality. You get to know your body and what
triggers you. That means you can generally be a
better sexual mate to your spouse. How do you
expect your spouse to pleasure you sexually when
you are so clueless about yourself to start with? Do
your partner a favour and play with yourself!
In counselling couples with sexual issues over the
years, especially where one partner is sexually
naive, I have recommended that he/she
masturbates to become more comfortable with
their own sexuality. A woman who is cold and
passive during sex can be a big problem to her
husband. Masturbation helps deal with that. She
learns what she likes and what triggers her off. She
learns what makes her climax. She becomes better
at sex with her husband. Same thing the other way
round.
Two: With many couples, one person usually has a
higher sexual drive than the other. This can put
pressure on the relationship. Masturbation is an
outlet for such individuals. Women keep
complaining about their husbands masturbating, yet
forget that they are the ones who come up with
excuses of having had a tired day or having a
headache when the poor man wants sex with them.
Such women are evil and insensitive. Totally selfish.
This applies to the men too. If your wife has a
higher sex drive than you do, masturbation is a
good let off of sexual pressure. In the alternative,
you could let her roam….
Three: For single folks, masturbation is a good way
of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over
time. It is safer than casual sex and doesn't cost you
buying anybody lunch or dinner. Or breaking
anybody's heart just because you are horny. For
example, every month whether a woman likes it or
not, she gets horny (that's every 60 seconds for a
man, by the way). This is a biological function. For
some, it is more intense than others. Masturbation
is a good way out. No; in itself, masturbation will
not hamper your sexual intercourse later. Don't
believe the hype.
Four: Masturbation produces almost all the other
benefits of sex without actual sex. It is a good anti-
depressant, relieves tension (not just sexual
tension), helps you sleep, and keeps the mind
sharp.
Who Masturbates?
Almost everybody masturbates, including many of
those people who tell you that it is sinful, dirty, and
a bad habit (yes; the hypocrisy is filthy). Most people
start masturbating from their teens. Remember wet
dreams when you first hit your teens? Usually that's
where it starts. A wet dream is a natural procedure
by the body. No; it has nothing to do with witches
and wizards or spiritual husbands and wives. God
knows how many spiritual wives I must have by now
if I count all the times I have had a wet dream.
Thankfully, I had an educated and enlightened
father who explained to me that it was nothing to
worry about when he saw my bed stains many years
ago as a teenager.
Masturbation is a normal part of the growing child's
exploration of his or her body and continues for the
rest of the lives of most people. If you masturbate,
you are not an oddity. Actually, its those who claim
not to masturbate that are the oddities. Don't let
anyone crush your spirit ever again about this.
There is nothing wrong with you.
There is nothing to
be ashamed of about it. As long as you don't let it
become an addiction or a problem to normal sexual
activity with your partner (and usually it becomes a
problem when fantasy gets involved), you are all
fine and dandy.
Did I leave anything out?
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